I got married
On Saturday evening, one hundred friends and family members got together for our wedding at a house in the hills. There were rings and toasts and food and cake. It’s all a bit of a blur. The photos I’ve seen so far have me grinning idiotically, which I’m sure I was.
We had guests come from as far away as Brazil and as far back as Webelos. Weddings and funerals seem to be the only ways to assemble large swaths of people from across one’s life. And only in the former do you get to catch up. That was a great part of the weekend.
At a cocktail party on Friday night, I described the feeling that the universe had forked, and that luckily we’d ended up in the version in which marriage is legal and good people win elections. Here’s hoping my theory is proved correct.
You’ll likely see photos from the wedding in (ironically enough) bridal magazines. And you’ll see my name and face in the press as we get closer to the November election, in an effort to defeat a constitutional amendment which would make Saturday’s festivities impossible.
But for now, I’m just trying to get used to the ring on my finger. And saying husband.
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June 30th, 2008 at 10:47 am
Huzzah! Congratulations, John!
June 30th, 2008 at 10:52 am
Congratulations, John! Here’s hoping we won’t even have to vote against a stupid referendum by ignorant people this November.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:11 am
Congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 11:15 am
Congratulations, John! I wish your family all the happiness in the world! =)
June 30th, 2008 at 11:17 am
YAY! I am so happy for you.
Some family members and I actually had a discussion the other day about how we can only seem to get everyone together for “the marryings and the buryings”, it’s a little sad really.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:31 am
Congratulations, John! How wonderful.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:31 am
Well, congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 11:33 am
Congratulations! If you can’t grin idiotically on your wedding day, when can you?
Here’s to a wonderful future for you and your family.
x
June 30th, 2008 at 11:33 am
Congrats!
June 30th, 2008 at 11:35 am
congrats john! best to your family and yes, lets hope this is a sign we’re in the right fork.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:36 am
Congrats.
And don’t worry about getting used to the Ring. You will have a worry feeling without it in a few weeks.
George
June 30th, 2008 at 11:42 am
Congratulations a thousand times, John! You’ve earned this far more than a lot of the straight couples who use marriage as a crutch to keep their relationship going. In this case, marriage wasn’t the creation of a union, but the symbol of a union already formed.
And thank God. I think we just moved a step closer to the 21st century.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:44 am
“O frabjous day! Callooh! Callay!”
Wonderful news. I hope you and your husband have a long and happy marriage.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:57 am
Congratulations, John. I got married on Saturday, too. My wife and I are happy to share a wedding date with you.
June 30th, 2008 at 11:59 am
Well, it goes without saying and I am sure you’ll be inundated with hundreds of well wishers on here, but congratulations. Here’s to a wonderful future for you both.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:06 pm
Congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 12:09 pm
Congrats, that’s great. Good time of year to get married, I celebrated my anniversary the day after you tied the knot.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:20 pm
Congratulations, and I look forward to the day when a marriage like yours is nothing out of the ordinary anywhere in the world.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
Congrats! Bask in the happiness and then put up the good fight. I’m routing for you here in New York. (And we recognize it here as well. :>)
June 30th, 2008 at 12:24 pm
June 30th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
that’s so sweet :’)
congratulations. I have a lot of friends very happy about that decision, and hopefully other states follow suit soon.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:32 pm
CONGRATS!!!
June 30th, 2008 at 12:34 pm
Congratulations, John! I didn’t really have a position on same-sex marriage before my wife and I were married, but afterward, when I realized how remarkable and amazing it felt to me to be married, I knew I could not deny that feeling to anyone. Blessings on your family, John.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
I imagine this thread will bog down as quickly as the last one did - but last time I wasn’t fast enough to say congratulations. So congratulations.
June 30th, 2008 at 12:45 pm
Congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 12:50 pm
Congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
Yay! I wish you all the joy and good fortune you deserve.
Hope Shatner got an invite, though. I
June 30th, 2008 at 12:59 pm
This is fantastic news — I’m so very happy for you both!
June 30th, 2008 at 1:01 pm
I wish you the best. Thank you for everything you do.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
All the best to you and your husband - wonderful news, John.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Congratulations.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
Many congratulations and all the very best to you and your family, John.
June 30th, 2008 at 1:18 pm
Yes, many congratulations, good luck, and let’s all keep on down that road together
June 30th, 2008 at 1:30 pm
John, that’s so very cool. Ours is the 26th and we’re both very excited. After nearly 10 years together we get to make it ‘legal.’
Congrats to you both!
Best, Pol
June 30th, 2008 at 1:52 pm
Much congratulations and Best Wishes!
June 30th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
Best news I’ve heard all day!
June 30th, 2008 at 2:22 pm
Congrats! The ring is definitely something to get used to. (in an amazingly good way).
June 30th, 2008 at 2:23 pm
Congratulations, John! Hot damn, it’s about time [i]something[/i] went right!
June 30th, 2008 at 3:21 pm
Awww! How sweet! Congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
Congratulations for your daughter, as well, since she’s no longer from a broken home!
June 30th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
Congratulations!
June 30th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
Congrats!
June 30th, 2008 at 3:42 pm
‘I will tell you a Joke about Jewel and Mary It is neither a Joke nor a Story For Rubin and Charles has married two girls But Billy has married a boy…’
-Abraham Lincoln
Congratulations, John
June 30th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Congratulations, John.
June 30th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
Congratulations- you will have many fellow warriors in the run-up to November.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:00 pm
Congrats! Now that you don’t have that worry on your mind, it’s back to writing!
The world needs another John August film ASAP.
June 30th, 2008 at 4:36 pm
Well, congratulations are in order!
June 30th, 2008 at 4:45 pm
Joining in with the congratulations, John!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Be sure to keep us informed as to how we can support you in defeating the asinine amendment!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:20 pm
Oh! And congrats, of course!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:25 pm
As a married man, I offer my condolences!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
Congrats, John!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:41 pm
Wish I could be more original, but Congratulations! I’ll be looking forward to seeing the photos in the Bridal rags!
June 30th, 2008 at 5:45 pm
Congrats, John! Really cool!
June 30th, 2008 at 6:08 pm
Wishing you every happiness. Here’s hoping we have the same rights on Nov. 5th that we do now.
June 30th, 2008 at 7:23 pm
Good for you, the both of you. I wish you nothing but the best!
June 30th, 2008 at 7:24 pm
I got married a week and a half ago, and have been trying to get used to saying “husband.” It’s strange, but it’s so much clearer than “partner,” or “boyfriend,” that I don’t think it will take too long to get used to it. I’ve never worn a ring before now, and I think that’s going to take much more time before it stops feeling strange.
Congratulations! Do you feel like a pioneer?
June 30th, 2008 at 7:38 pm
Congratulations, John! I still remember you “Marry me” post to Arnold. Happy to see your wish finally come true!!
June 30th, 2008 at 7:41 pm
cangrats. it’s nice to see that at least somewhere in the US they’re finally recognizing what people should have long ago.
June 30th, 2008 at 8:43 pm
Congrats John.
Your post reminded me of the line from The Big Chill where at the wake Jeff Goldblum’s character says:
June 30th, 2008 at 9:13 pm
:-))
June 30th, 2008 at 11:04 pm
Congratulations!!
July 1st, 2008 at 12:01 am
Awesome! Heartiest congratulations, sir.
July 1st, 2008 at 4:59 am
All the best, sir! Congratulations!
July 1st, 2008 at 5:20 am
Congratulations Johna, may you have a long and happy life togeather.
July 1st, 2008 at 6:26 am
Poor guy… There goes your sex life especially after popping out a couple of kids you’ll be responsible for 18 years. There goes your freedom, time with your buddies and your favorite hobbies. Trust me, all of the above will happen…
July 1st, 2008 at 7:18 am
Sweet. Well congratulations, I’m sure this has been well worth the wait.
July 1st, 2008 at 7:52 am
Congratulations! A long and happy marriage to you both.
July 1st, 2008 at 9:11 am
Congrats! That’s so sweet, I’m really happy for you. Here in Switzerland we recognise it too!
July 1st, 2008 at 9:52 am
Yay! Congratulations.
July 1st, 2008 at 10:14 am
my sincere congratulations. i am proudly hosting a beach wedding for my cousin and his partner of nineteen years in august. it’s been far too long to get this simple human recognition for people.
they are both attorneys who plan to go home to arizona and sue for status.
i’m very happy and proud to be a californian again.
don’t forget to go to the polls this november to vote down the ballot initiative, proposition 8, which attempts to return our society to the bronze age.
July 1st, 2008 at 11:23 am
Big congrats! That ring takes a while to get used to, but I still smile every time I look at mine, some six years later.
RED
July 1st, 2008 at 3:29 pm
I wish you a lifetime of bliss, John August.
July 1st, 2008 at 4:04 pm
Congrats!
July 1st, 2008 at 5:04 pm
Awesome! Congrats!!
July 1st, 2008 at 8:25 pm
Yay! Awesome! Many many congratulations!
July 1st, 2008 at 11:00 pm
I’ve been away in the woods writing - but belated congratulations.
July 2nd, 2008 at 12:54 am
Congrats John and husband! Thank you for making the world a better place by sharing this aspect of your private life for a good cause. You had 100 at the party, you should at least get 100 here, too!
July 2nd, 2008 at 1:28 am
I just saw a great doc at the USC-CUC Global Exchange tonight, following the paths of several gay individuals and also a couple that was finally able to get married, and the partner from China spoke of how amazing it was to see how homosexuals are free to be themselves and so respected. It moved him to know that somewhere in this world, he could be himself.
It was really moving to see that, the earnest hope…but at the same time, it made me bitter, because it’s ridiculous that it’s just getting started…and there’s still so much resistance.
My most jubilant and sincere congratulations to you and your husband, John.
Oh…I’ve sent way too many grown ass friends of mine to play Puzzle Farter, and I myself beat it yesterday. I expected far more farting and fanfare upon completion, and I swear, that’s not the studio talking.
July 2nd, 2008 at 7:25 am
Been reading your blog for awhile, and your wonderful news makes me hopeful for this world of ours. Thanks for sharing a personal joy.
July 2nd, 2008 at 4:12 pm
This is supremely awesome.
July 2nd, 2008 at 6:49 pm
Congratulations!! Mozel tov and God Bless!
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:09 am
congrats!!
July 3rd, 2008 at 9:12 am
Congratulations, John!
July 3rd, 2008 at 11:20 am
Congratulations! I’m not quite ready to get married, but I am so happy that you and me and millions of other gays in American are finally starting to get the same rights as everybody else.
I wish you and your (long-time coming) husband the best.
July 4th, 2008 at 10:54 am
Awww, that’s wonderful. Mazel tov to you and your new husband!
July 4th, 2008 at 12:36 pm
Many, many congratulations John! Here’s to moving our little swath of history in the right direction. And, of course, to love.
July 4th, 2008 at 11:06 pm
Aw! Congratulations, John and Mr. John!
July 7th, 2008 at 11:30 am
Félicitations!
July 7th, 2008 at 11:37 am
A longtime reader, seldom commenter wishes both of you all the best. Very happy news…. (but I want photos!).
July 9th, 2008 at 8:39 am
Congratulations!!!
July 17th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Congratulations! I am have the great fortune of being the sister-in-law to one of your college friends, Elizabeth, so i did get to see a few pics from her camera and it looked wonderful….and you have a great grin! Again, Congratulations.